Monday, August 29, 2011

Expectations

As with everything in life, Kev and I built up pretty big expectations for our big Monterey move. We love the water and thought we would spend a lot time at the beach. We decided to move into the military community, assuming all our neighbors would be in the same boat and age range as us, thus making friends easy to meet. We thought Kev could treat school like a work day and not have to ever bring work home. We believed that even though it was far away from home, we would become so immersed in our new life that we wouldn't get homesick. Things are not exactly going as planned.

-The water is cold, well and y'all know about the sun situation.
-We have met a lot of people in our neighborhood, but not many that we feel we can connect with (except for my faithful blog readers Tyler and Dena- hey friends, thanks for being awesome!)
-Kev's schedule is much more demanding than we were expecting and he spends a lot of time outside a 9-5 day on school work.
-I'm a little homesick, a lot of the time. I miss my family, and job, and friends and waiting for the leaves to start changing soon.

But the reality is, we are here, and here for 2 years, so there is no use spending the next two years harping on these things. Kev and I are both really positive people and we definitely have not been ourselves since the move. We spent a lot of time last weekend chatting about that and decided from here on out, up we go. So the new plan is to enjoy the beach anyways, maybe Kev will even learn to surf. We have accepted that school will be tough and there is a lot of work to be done. We talked about the different ways we can take advantage of the time we do have together and if that means Kev works really hard during the week so we have our weekends free, then that is what we will do. We will expand out horizons in the neighborhood; Kev got a bike and wants to join the cycling club, while I am stalker-style noting the houses that put up any SEC team flags in preparation for football season and plan on making them be my friend. We not only have my mom's visit this week, but some friends from home coming on Sunday, my parents at the end of October and Kev's mom in the beginning of November and a trip to Washington State to see my sister in law and her family at Thanksgiving, so that is a lot to look forward to. We also decided that we need to find what it pretty and special about out here, not just cling to what we love about the East Coast, so we want to start traveling a lot more.

We also know things could be a lot worse. We are a military family who has been able to be together and not worry about deployments for the past few years. Kev comes home every night and I'm not concerned for his safety. That in itself makes this all worth it. So it's not that we don't like it here, it is just not what we expected. And so now, we can start over and look forward to so much more.

So here's what I need from you:
a) Anything in your life lately that is not living up to your expectations? How do you deal with it?
b) What West Coast experiences must I add to our bucket list? From the well known tourist destinations to a favorite taco stand on the side of the road, I want to hear about it!

Annnnnd I am officially done complaining. Seriously, I am, stop looking at me like that.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Katie-

We moved to TX 9 mos ago and it hasn't been easy for us either. It's hard especially the older you get to make new friends so we are struggling with that too. We haven't really connected with anyone in our neighborhood either...we are kind of in a weird place in life. We don't have kids yet so we can't offer playdates and we aren't receiving SS checks yet so we can't talk about that with our older neighbors! Plus I have the opposite problem you do with weather...it's sunny & HOT here everyday. Like 110 hot! But I know that things will get better, it just takes time and a season change! Laura S.

Martha Metzler said...

umm you left out a key component to your thanksgiving trip ;)

we had the same conversation this last weekend. we've really been struggling with "NC Envy". We weren't expecting to be homesick but we definitely are. we can keep each other in check for positivity!

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Tyler said...

Things will look up. We went through hell the last month and a half and they are FINALLY looking better. I honestly didn't know if they ever would, to be honest with you. Just be patient. I know it's easier said than done, but in the end, it will all be a ok!

Mad Hatter said...

Have you tried artichokes yet? (My husband calls them mayonnaise scoops.) Also: avocado and cheese sandwiches
My favorite places in Calif.: Lake Tahoe, San Francisco (including the Exploratorium, a hands-on science museum), Muir Woods, Yosemite, San Diego (including the zoo), Disneyland, Carmel (we went there on our honeymoon), the old Missions
It is true that in Northern Calif. the beach is more for scenic beauty than for swimming, though my senior class trip was to the beach at Santa Cruz and we went in the water because we were crazy teenagers. Have you been to the Santa Cruz boardwalk?