Thursday, January 26, 2012

Happy Blogger Syndrome


Hi, my name is Kate, and I have Happy Blogger Syndrome.

Is it just me, or every few months does blog world get its panties in a bunch because some blogs are 'too happy'? I have a problem with people who complain about this. I don't think people with Happy Blogger Syndrome are fake, I think they are frankly, just happy.

I'm not perfect and I am incredibly aware of that. Sometimes my children cry and I occasionally raise my voice (or worse, the finger with the side stare, then you know you are in trouble). Most days I wear jeans, cowboy boots and a solid colored Tshirt, my heels are long forgotten except for special occasions. I only blow dry my hair for church (and that's only sometimes). My husband and I can get on each other's nerves. Out of 100 pictures I take a day, sometimes, only 2 or 3 are actually good. Cullen gets a Happy Meal once a week. 'Working out' to me is reading a book on the treadmill, like once a week, maybe, and only because the book is that good and I need an excuse to finish it. I'm tired a lot. Bennett's poops are smelly. My laundry sits in the basket for days because I find it tedious to put away. But why the hell would I want to focus on that everyday? Wouldn't you get bored and/or sad if everyday I shared the mundane details of my not-so-glamorous life?

You see, it is not that I am trying to create an above average persona, the truth is, that my perspective on life has changed since I started blogging. Through blogging, I get to find the aspects of my day that are not mundane. Do you know how wonderful it is so have something positive to post about every day? To me, that is a blessing, not a bad thing.

I didn't like California when we first moved here, but it is growing on me and honestly, my blog helped me love our new home because it put me out of my comfort zone to find the things about it that would make me happy. I think that is awesome. I remember back in early September, I called my mom in a fit of tears one day because everything just felt so hard. And her response was to figure it out, because that kind of attitude just wasn't me. And she was right. I really truly do try to be this positive in my every day life.

I'm not perfect, but my life is pretty darn close. There isn't one thing I would change about it right now. I have complete faith that where we are and what are are doing is part of the overall greatness of our life's plan, why would I want to mess with that? I have two beautiful, sweet and healthy boys and a handsome, loving husband who provides for us. I am blessed to be in a position to be able to stay home. I really don't have anything legitimate to complain about, and that is why I blog happy.

Now, if you'll excuse me, Bennett is trying to eat the computer keys and smells like baby poop.

Here's to finding some happy in your Thursday :)



 

31 comments:

Laura said...

Love this post Kate - completely agree with 'blogging happy! It's great to find so much amazing inspiration every day!

Kirsten- The Foreign Domestic said...

Katie! I LOVE this post! Do you mind if I share this with my FB fans? This seriously couldn't have come at a better time. I was reading someone's comment on another page about how people are too happy all of the time and it's annoying and fake...I reflected on some things for a day or two and thought about what they said then I came to (pretty much) the same conclusion you did..sucks for them if they feel that way :). I'm with you..be happy and share that happiness! We only live one life and it's too short to sit around grumbling all of the time.

Thanks!

Sean Marie said...

Ah, I love you for this! It's so true. People get pisses when others are happy bloggers and say they're "sugar coating" things.

Jennifer said...

Internet haters wear me out!

laurenjeanallece said...

This is WONDERFUL! And I agree with you 110%! Everyone gets down from time to time, and true, it's a hall of a lot easier to focus on the negative stuff in life because everyone needs a good pity-party once in a while to maintain perspective.

But I'm like you - I'm one of those people who is just HAPPY. Even when I'm down, I can still count my blessings and remember reasons to be grateful. And not enough people do that!

I love how you point out that it's through blogging we can make our happiness tangible. It's the perfect forum to express our gratitude for those blessings!

Oh, what a wonderful post! Thank you for this blast of positivity this morning - It's going to be a great day, I can tell :)

Amy G. said...

I absolutely love this! Thanks for just throwing it out there because I couldn't agree more. What's wrong with trying to bring out the positive. Dwelling on the negative is why people become depressed and if you have an outlet to discuss everything happy in your life, then do it! Yay for happy blogger syndrome!

Heather said...

I love this post, and agree 100 percent. Blogging has made me a more positive person through the ability to focus on the positive aspects of my life.

Kristin said...

Like you, I couldn't stand our location for the longest time (seriously? Alaska?!). I still do not prefer it. However, I realize that I have nothing to really complain about. I got the job I always wanted, the husband I always wanted, and we're very blessed to be able to pay off our student loans with his deployment money. I still tend to write on the side of irony. But hey, at least I'm not a drama-causing-hater :)

Joeylee said...

Love this! I agree 100% great post. I'm glad that your loving CA now

Jenn said...

Some people just like to be Negative Nelly's.. Wouldn't be happy if a rainbow popped 'em upside their rear. So you just have to ignore them because there are plenty of people who LOVE to read *happy*! :)

PS. Loved the part about the stinky poo. I can relate. I literally gagged this morning when I opened up the diaper. Have GOT to remember to lay off the peas...

Loretta said...

What a great post! Frankly, I love visiting you...is this what makes me feel so warm and fuzzy when I do? If so, then, don't you quit, because I love coming over to get my happy! Be yourself hon! Hugs

Sue said...

why would you want to blog about the crappy things. Life is misderable enough, as you say find the best in every day and tell people about it. I surely don't want to read a blog where someone moans all the time.

Keep on being happy

Cynthia said...

Love this! How true. Keep on keeping on...your blog is great :)

Eliza said...

Great post! Just what we were talking about the other day. Cheers to staying positive :) xoxo, e

fittingbackin said...

Absolutely - you know I 'blog happy' too and will do what I wanna even if i'm called fake for it! :)

Susan said...

Kate, this is so so true! I absolutely love reading what you have to say and it is so refreshing to hear happy people talk as opposed to what I hear from a lot of people a lot of the time. I agree with you, that is why blogging to me is such a good experience. I appreciate it more and more everyday and I want to thank you for the wonderful reminder!

Allison said...

I couldn't agree more, though I wax depressingly introspective at times. :D Blogging about where I live helped me love it again after a very hard bout of homesickness. Finding something beautiful and passionate in every day, no matter how small, is important to me, too. And some have called me a utopian idealist for that... and some have called me naive for that... and some have called me lucky as hell for that. :)

A GREAT post! xoxo

Emily said...

Very well sad, hun. And there are clearly a lot of people out there who agree with you...based on the comments. I think we need to be "real" and "honest". It *is* okay to write something less-than-perfect on a blog....and as long as people feel that freedom...it's also just as okay to focus on the positive. That's definitely the attitude I have in life as well.

dbirkel said...

Katie,
You made me laugh! Life is too short and too precious to do anything but find the good in anything and everything that you can. Why, just today as I was driving to work I realized how beautiful the scenery along my route is...I wouldn't have done that a little over a year ago.
If everyone in this world would work to find the good in every day instead of the bad, just think how much different things would be.
You and your wonderful family are one of the beautiful "things" in my life and I am thankful for that.
Keep "blogging happy" and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Love to you all!!!

Sagittarian said...

Happy blogging Kate! I love this post! Blogger like you gives inspiration and shine to our face, thank you Kate for being a happy blogger :) God bless you and your family! :) Smile..:)

winetastegirl.com said...

This post really made me laugh! I agree with you on the LC line at Kohl's. I haven't been there to see it, but I just saw one of her shirts in Better Homes and Gardens this month and it was super cute.

Mandy@OrangeAutumn said...

I love this post!! I like happy bloggers all the way :) The bloggy world is such a great place to go for a laugh/smile/inspiration. I love it that way!

Emily | Recently said...

I completely agree with you that blogging tends to bring about the best feelings in me because I love it. I think what others should be more focused on is being true to themselves in their blogs. If they do that, then they won't have to worry about anyone else! Keep doin' what you're doin' girlfriend! I always love your posts!

Catherine said...

I love this so much. Thanks you for sharing that and being so honest about that. It's so true and I'm always going to remember that about blogging now.


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Ivana said...

Awww, Kate, this is exactly what I needed to read right now! I can understand you when it comes to the moving part. It can be so difficult to get used to the new town, new region, or, in my case, new country. Especially when I don´t speak a word of German! But complaining won´t get us anywhere. It´s all about rolling up your sleeves and trying to figure it out! I´ve found someone to give me private language lessons, I have a fiancĂ© that´s incredibly supportive and positive (which is really contagious), and I know I have strenght in me to get it all right. So why the heck would I complain? I´m all for Happy Blogger attitude!

Happy Friday!

xx Ivana

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Anna (A Newfound Treasure) said...

Kate! You're awesome. I agree 100%. I love staying home with my 2 boys and we are blessed to be where we are. My precious hubby provides in a way that allows me to not miss 1-day watching my boys grow. So grateful that we are at a church that we love, doing what we were meant to do. Be encouraged!! You rock :) I love a happy blogger!! Just stay true to yourself. It will pay off and readers will flock to you and the authenticity that you show! Have a wonderful weekend!!

XO
Anna
www.anewfoundtreasure.com

Meg {henninglove} said...

i love this post kate. my husband is always reminding me that sometimes blogger put on a happy face and things aren't always that great. you are being real and honest with us and we love you for that!!

Brittany said...

Well said! I look forward to all of your happy (or unhappy!) posts!

Katie {Miss Dixie} said...

I love this post!! I think everyone has the right to share whatever they wish to, it's your own blog and your own choice. I like reading happy blogs and I usually blog happy. Simple as that:)

KJ said...

Well said!! Moving across the country is hard enough, and sometimes it's refreshing to focus on the positive. It's crazy to me how similar our stories are :) You always write with a refreshing sense of truth that is so fun to read... I hope you don't lump yourself in with the Positive Patty bloggers out there! I'm with you that life IS good... and to NOT celebrate that fact or capture the great moments would be a disservice to yourself and the memories you're making. Some of my favorite nights are spent reading back through my own posts... reminding myself of what all has happened in the last 18 months. Keep up the good work :)

Nicole Marie said...

Love this Kate!! It's your blog. I am happy that you are happy person regardless.